Tips Berpantang Mudah Untuk Ibu Moden

hahahaha...

kita ni asal boleh je kan nak pantang. yela, zaman sekarang semua nak mudah, cepat, efficient, tapi yang pasti end result memang power. so kat sini, i just wanted to share what did i do during my berpantang days, it helps me to ease some burden and enjoy my confinement way better than my first pregnancy.

orait. the moment you step out from the hospital, just set in mind, berpantang ini mudah, semudah ABC.

kalau boleh start seawal pagi yang boleh. dalam pukul 5am? maybe masa ni hari pertama tukang urut datang. selalu tukang urut cakap tak yah mandi dulu, yela kan dia nak urut pakai minyak, so takkan sampai dua kali nak mandi pagi tu. just basuh muka and gosok gigi, tukar la pad. pastu  pam susu.sesambil tunggu kakak tukang urut tu, korang kemas la tempat tidur korang, bukak tingkap biar angin segar masuk. siapkan set pakai baby and letak tepi. pastu breakfast la sesambil tunggu.

tukang urut sampai korang pun start urut. let say baby nangis nak susu masa urut, stop kejap, bagi susu kat baby. tukang urut akan tunggu. tukang urut yang baik tak akan kisah pun. lepas tu dah siap urut apa bagai, korang pun mandi, kan? time ni pass baby kat akak tukang urut itu untuk mandikan, or if its not in the pakej, suh la mak korang mandikan. my son mandi seawal 8 pagi. mandi air panas and splash2.

nanti akak tu akan pakai kan bengkung. by the time siap semua pun dalam 11 to 12 pm. masa ni dah sibuk nak lunch. lepas lunch time ni baru korang nak rehat sikit. nak pam, nak tungku pun boleh. usually 12 to 5pm adalah me time.

kul 5pm mandikan baby. lepas baby mandi, mommy pulak mandi. pastu ready for dinner. dalam kul 7pm siapla.kul 8-10pm pun adalah me time. nak pam susu, tungku pun boleh. korang takyah hirau la pasal tv ke hp ke. selalu dalam 2weeks pertama tu i mmg jarang pegang hp.

pastu tido la, sebab malam kita memang ngantuk tapi TERPAKSA susukan anak yang nak susu.

baju kotor ape kejadah semua?
inilah peranan suami. baju iols and baby kotor husband hantar self service  siap dry kan lagi. kadang dia balik i yang excited nak lipat sebab panas2 lagi.

itu jelah i nak share pun. sebenarnye berubah2 tapi i ade keje ni nak buat. hahaha...nanti sambung lagi k.

Beza mengandung anak lelaki dengan perempuan

Hi semekom. hari ni nak share beza nya masa i mengandung anak perempuan dengan anak lelaki. sebab dah merasa ada dedua boleh la share kan. hihi maybe lain ibu, lain anak, lain ragam nya. so jangan stress, jangan sibuk nak compare dengan orang lain, ingat satu benda je, kita nak anak kita sihat dan selamat dilahirkan.

1. Anak perempuan
- perut mengembang ke kiri dan ke kanan. kira dari depan tak nampak pregnant, tapi nampak gemok. sorry. hahaha...perut slightly kecik dari mengandung anak lelaki. so memang i takde keluar stretch marks.
Anak lelaki
- perut memanjang ke hadapan. . dari depan tak nampak pregnant, dari tepi, hello....perot macam nak meletop dah. hahaha... perut slightly besar. well hello stretch marks. T_T

2. Anak perempuan
- i only vomit twice or 3 times sepanjang pregnant
Anak lelaki
- i only vomit once.

3. Anak perempuan
- baby quite active dalam perut. especially dah nak dekat EDD.
Anak lelaki
- kurang active. active bila mommy lepas makan jer. haha...

4. Anak perempuan
- kaki muka tangan mommy semua bengkak seawal bulan ke 6. water retention yang sangat teruk tak boleh nak solat macam biasa. i guna kerusi untuk solat. hence, kaki naik one size bigger.
Anak lelaki
- kaki je bengkak itu pun 2 minggu sebelum EDD pastu dia dah surut. hence solat adalah seperti biasa throughout pregnancy. suka sangat.

5. Anak perempuan
- mommy suka sangat makan benda manis macam chocolate and cakes. kalau takde stok kat umah, mommy sanggup makan roti sapu butter buh gula.
Anak lelaki
- mommy suka sangat makan pedas. selagi tak pedas rasa tak puas.

6. Anak perempuan
- max weight mommy increased adalah 25kg
Anak lelaki
- max weight mommy increased adalah 15kg

7. Anak perempuan
- tanda bersalin= tumpah darah. just a tiny dot of blood in the toilet bowl. tak sakit.
Anak lelaki
- tanda bersalin = tumpah darah. blood show siap macam ada selaput darah keluar sekali. darah meleleh ke lantai. tak sakit.

8. Anak perempuan
- mommy muka bersepah, tak bermakeup, and malas nak keluar jenjalan.
Anak lelaki
- mommy cecantik, rajin, sampai a day before bersalin pun siap mop rumah bagai.

9. Anak perempuan and anak lelaki
- both pregnancy takde sakit2 ke, lemah2 ke.
- both pregnancy tak kerap kencing

10. Anak perempuan
- took like 3 hours punya contraction, 3 kali push, 3 stitches.
- contraction adalah mild.
Anak lelaki
- took like 2 hours punya contraction, 1 kali push, 1 stitches
- contraction sangatlah intense rasa macam nak mati. hahahaa....seriously.

11. Anak perempuan
- baby lahir 3.31kg / normal delivery
Anak lelaki
- baby lahir 3.34kg / normal delivery

so itu lah bezanya. macam mana nak dapat anak lelaki or anak perempuan? hahaha...i rasa i tau tapi aishh...segan la nak cakap. itu u ols google la sendiri, ada je diorang dah bagitau. hahaha..

apa-apa pun...x kisahlah anak lelaki or anak perempuan, mereka tetap amanah Allah yang kita kena jaga sepanjang hayat kita. take care mommies!

Quickie!

Can i say that. now (i feel) my life is already complete?

I'm going to start with, Alhamdulilah (all praise to Allah). Ya' know why?

1. I have a loving husband, whom I'd known for almost 13 years.
2. I have two babies (yeay?). A 2 yr old girl and a 1 mth old boy. Boleh tutup kilang sekejap i guess. well, i love to have a lot of babies, but yeah. you know what i mean.
3. I still have a job. Can't wait to meet all of my students and start the class.
4. I pass my exams with flying colours. Paper dah la bapak susah.
5. I get back my weight before pregnant because i can fit in into my Levi jeans. why bother? sebab that was a gift from my husband and i pakai 2 kali je before my tummy grew. jyeah! but kena buat sit up because the pouch is still there. haish!

Nanti nak update cerita delivery and macam2 lagi....for the time being, let me enjoy my moments!

Effort in love

baru lepas lunch, solat, mandi, ni dah amik notes nak study for next paper. sekali rasa macam, ok ngantuk, meh update blog. anyway my daughter tengah nyenyak tidur kat sebelah. she's the one who pointed her fat short finger towards the bedroom nak tidur.

tadi daddy balik kejap bawakkan food (nasi hujan panas kemarau...haha), lepas she kiss2 her daddy, terus gi bilik.

anyway, another 3 weeks to go before my baby come out. my feeling? seriously excited, rasa macam lebih excited dari pregnant kan sophea. sebab, masa first pregnancy tu i macam, slow mo, taknak over excited (walaupun...), kan orang cakap jangan excited sangat. but this baby, aiyakk...cannot wait mehh...x sabar nak jumpa dia, susukan dia, jaga dia, tengok kerenah dia. im so ready, insyaAllah!

barang2 semua dah siap. kalau nak ikutkan memang la takkan pun siap nye. but thinking that nowadays it is very easy to get/buy things so takpela. nak pakai baru kita cari.

husband? well, he can never be better than this. haha...he has been very supportive, and selalu sangat la manja kan i. i ni Pisces-baby. so mood swing tu selalu. so he has to be awesome to encounter my moodyness. korang jangan tak caya, dah nak dekat 13 tahun kot kitorang together. dari dulu sampai sekarang perangai i memang sama je. kadang-kadang macam tak percaya plak that we actually made it into marriage, and actually make two babies together.

euuwww.....hahahaha!!

nevertheless, perasaan i, the way i looked at him, is just the same when first i met him. orang kata, perasaan suka. cinta ni tak boleh buat2, sebab when you reach a certain point, benda tu jadi bosan sebab kita force ourselves to like someone. but in my case, nope. i really do love him.

honestly speaking, setiap kali doa, memang i akan cakap, " yaAllah yaTuhanku, panjangkanlah jodoh aku dengan (nama suami) sampai ke syurga". tiap kali. tak pernah tinggal. kecuali kalau doa pendek sebab nak cepat ke ape la...hahaha...

bukan sekali dua hubungan goyah....( goyah la..lelaki hensem ramai...hikhik), tetapi still our love getting stronger for every bitterness we faced. and tiap kali itu lah, makin kuat and makin we both know that we actually need each other.

dah kalau tiap kali makan pun nak berteman, tiap kali nak tidur pun mesti at least pegang tangan (expecially masa aircond rosak harapan la nak tidur pelok2...tumbok kang!), tak nampak lagi ke betapa we need each other. itu kalau tak sedar lagi tu, sila terjun bangunan.

eh ni nasihat untuk orang lain ke or untuk diri sendiri ni? hahahaha.....

ni anak dah dua ni. kata orang perasaan dah beralih arah. tak tau la kalau beliau beralih arah. but for me, same old same old. i still madly in love with him.i will always be there for him, for forever. or for as long as he wants me to be his wife. kalau he doesn't love me anymore, well, siapa kita nak paksa. terima jelah ketentuan Allah.

mane tau lepas tu sukri yahya ke...keith foo ke datang. hahaha...

tips nak hubungan selalu 'in love' konon nye...dua-dua kena berusaha. dua-dua kene tunjuk effort yang kite sayang dia, and nak dia dalam hidup kita. walaupun dah kahwin. macam ahkak, effort nye adalah, bagi soalan cepu emas di tempat yang least expected.

contoh, masa encik husband tengah pakai kasut nak pergi kerja, i will ask, "B, u sayang i tak?". kalau time tu die rasa nak jawab die jawab la, kalau die xnak, termalu-malu la sendiri iolss...hahaha...

oklah, nanti kalau free i update lagi k. ingat, love those who love you!

Kejap

Assalammualaikum.
Yes, i'm back!haha...sebab dah start maternity leave. i just take 1 month early from EDD because i have my master exams and also, well to equip myself (and my mind) to have a second baby of my own.

so anyway, yesterday we (me and friends) had a study group at my university. can you imagine, me-being pregnant at 36 weeks, bawak bag pack and go for a study group? lawak ok...dengan mengah2 nyer..ahaha...janji kul 11am but i managed to skip to go for my routine check up, and i waited for 3 hours ok. ni paling lama i pernah tunggu kat government hospital.phewww...nak free kan, telan je la...kalau nurse tu ngelat ke, ngulor ke, ikhlas ke tak, itu between dia dengan bos dia dengan Allah. siapa la kita nak mempertikaikan...last i sampai university pukul 2.30pm.

what did i get from the study group?a lot. repetitive question. format of answer / answer scheme. best kan? memudahkan kita nak study. husband? biasa la. skeptical. dia kata dulu dia study sorang2 je boleh dapat cgpa 4.0. kan i cakap, husband i tu alien....hahahaha...i tak tau la dia buat apa, makan nota dia kot jadik pandai camtu.

orang biasa2 macam i, haruslah kena baca nota 14 juta kali.haha...

Okay, nanti i sambung lagi k. sebab nak print notes dengan exam papers. ala korang...macam la tak pernah jadi student dulu...muuaahh!!

Being redha

you know, sometimes at one point of your life, you don't care about anything else rather than yourself, and people who loves you, and people that you love the most. even to come to an extend, you just care about yourself and your family, cause you know that family wont leave you terkedek-kedek behind. heh...

im at my almost 7months now. baby is growing well. i already know the baby's gender but yet not to reveal it till the baby is born. i just want to say ALHAMDULILAH. thank you Allah for giving me such rezeki.

anyway, do you know about redha? and what actually it means and what are the effects of redha towards one's life?

 "Redha bermaksud menerima dengan rasa senang dengan apa yang diberikan oleh Allah s.w.t samada ia baik atau buruk, samada ia berupa hukum, qada' mahupun ketentuan daripada Allah s.w.t".

especially when you had a bad day, or something bad happened to you that day. at first we might feel dissapointed, outcast, frustrated, angry, maybe we might blame others, or we might even blame ourselves due to what happened. but when it comes to being 'redha'. you will look at things differently, different dari apa judgements kita at the first place. we can even accept it simply just like that without being judgemental.

and you even feel relax and calm.something yang kita boleh achieved just by being 'redha'. redha dengan segala apa yang Allah dah tentukan untuk kita.

this year 2015, really a year yang i takkan lupa seumur hidup i. both good and bad things did happened to me. and you never know what i had been through this year, and i passed through it, ALONE. alone (but not lonely definitely...haha). faced it, digested it, ALONE. i can say that i'm a pretty strong woman. i might not be a pious woman, but just by simply being redha dengan apa yang Allah dah 'tulis' untuk i, makes me what i am today.

so for what i had been through, give me sky and mountain, insyaAllah i can survive.hahaha...ish, takbur bunyik nya. no, what i mean is, experienced do teach me, you can never trust a person 100% except for yourself. this was what i get when i trusted a person too much. err...but i tend to trust people easily. one of my weaknesses maybe. tapi..really i tak sangka..

right now, just by being redha, i dah tak berapa kisah what will happen in my life, sekarang or later. i had gave so much, and this is how it repay me, then suit themselves. be it work, study, or anything in between. i just want to do things that make my life happy and conducive enough for my babies to grow well. I HAD GAVE SO SO MUCH, probably TOO MUCH. and now people do take me for granted.

if that so, then que sera sera. ;)

remember, life is too short to be wasted. people come and go, memory wont last for that long, yang sentiasa ada dengan kita is Allah, and He will never leave us, only we who left Him.

Hello There Baby

baru lepas bayar all the credit cards, mainly for citibank. nyesal plak apply hari tu sebab dia bagi 4 sekali credit card. lupa walapun free for life, government tax rm50 kene bayar jugakkan. so total ada 7 credit card sekarang termasuk 1 supplementary. im going to decline 4 tinggalkan 3 jer. husband kata susah nak managed nanti. sometimes he is totally right. ;)

anyway, i nak buat official announcement sebab i tau takde siapa yang akan baca blog ni melainkan a few friends yang entah bukak lagi ke tak blog i, hahaha....and readers yang kemungkinan tak kenal who am i. but i tau siapa yang kenal i, tak mungkin akan war-warkan cerita ni sebab i tak kasi *garang*. hikhik...

well anyway, i dah 5 months pregnant!! wahahaha...dalam pada taknak tu, tersangkut pulak. what more can i say melainkan ALHAMDULILAH. i dah tau i pregnant dari mula lagi, but bak kata orang2 tua, awal2 jangan dihebahkan dulu. sekarang pun taknak hebahkan jugak, that's why i just cakap kat sini. sebab this pregnancy is more interesting than masa sophea.

The Start
oh well, memang kitorang planned nak tunggu sophea dah besar, around 5 or 6 untuk ada the second baby. me and husband were already discussed upon this matter and agreed to wait until the right time to have second baby. but before this thing happened, husband pernah cakap, "is it normal to feel jealous when our friends are having their second baby?". i dah gelak-gelak masa tu (gelak campur ketiak basah, amendelah  dia merepek nie...adoiii). i cakap, "well, some people do. but i dont. kenapa?". dia tak jawab, dia senyum jer. cehh..kurang asam.

Fyi, we dont use family planning pils or etc, we do it natural way because i learned, stopping yourself from being pregnant not due to health problems is HARAM. so kitorg just lari2 dari ovulation day.

The Beginning of the Story
tapi i tau sesuatu akan terjadi bila i lambat sehari dari tarikh sepatutnya i have my period. darn....  i pergi beli pregnancy test secretly, and try at night, same macam masa sophea, 8.30 pm. and there it was, the second purple line next to the control line. oh well, hello there....hahahaha...

i punya menggigil la, and when i wait for encik husband to come home, we sat quietly on our comfort bed, and telling him i am pregnant, dia pun terkejut and tak percaya. the first question coming from him was, "macam mana boleh pregnant?". i rasa macam nak tumbuk muka dia right that moment.

"macam mana boleh pregnant? i pegi carefour tadi beli ikan, pastu balik tetiba dah pregnant". ha kan...soalan tak beragak. hahahaha.

lepas tu i menangis. sebab i looked at him. he doesnt look very happy. tapi i silap, i lupe muka husband i memang cenggitu. hahaha...muka keras jer. yela, dalam movie kan, nanti husband hug bini dia, buat bulatan, pastu nangis sesama...hahaha....silly me.

Pregnancy Symptom
none. dulu masa sophea, in record muntah dalam 3 kali jer sepanjang 9 bulan. adik beliau,in record, takde. alhamdulilah. cuma masa sophea i love sweet food, desserts especially. chocolate, cake, pavlova, aaaa semua tu i makan.

this time around i suka makan pedas and a lot of sushi. dessert pun takde

 Boy or Girl 
yet to be known. still small. tapi doc ade say something about it. im just blessed. this baby will come out insyaallah dalam bulan 6 2015. doakan saya sihat dan dipermudahkan yer.

Rezeki
betul bila Allah kata setiap anak ada rezeki masing2. kitorang risau jugak kalau tak dapat cater all the babies need kan. tapi:

1. mommy dapat increment in salary
2. daddy naik pangkat
3. daddy dapat beli rumah and we will be moving in, in 2017

just too surreal for me.

to husband, i just pray that Allah will keep our family together sayang. dalam susah dalam senang, we will always be here for each other. we had been through so much, and i dont think other people will survive that. i just rasa bersyukur bersyukur and bersyukur on what we have today, and on what we stand on now.i just love you and our babies so so much.

"there is no perfect family. but together we can make it perfect "

Being a loyal wife

Assalammualaikum.

Being a wife is not easy. being a loyal wife even harder. not the fact that a wife do not want to be a loyal person, it is just that 'she' was not been appreciated the way she had been loyal to her husband, all these while.

taking care of the house, the kids, all the clothes, cooking and everything else, what do you mean when you say "it is not enough for a man" and the fact that boys will always be boys. i mean like, com'on , dont you think if is not enough for a girl, we would actually definitely fine other guys to fit all the three quota?

but we don't my dear husband(s). as what Islam taught us to be humble in everything we do, and be satisfied with everything we have in life, we have everything we want, why do we need 3 husbands then?

please.

we, wives, has been sacrificed a lot. definitely a lot more than you. marry you, give birth, our body are distorted (hahaha...) due to the pregnancy, tak rasa kesian ke kat kitorang?

Like seriously. kalau dah tak suka sangat kat kitorang, just leave us and be happy with the one who can actually can make you happy. but just dont lie to us, dont hurt us physically (no pukul2) and mentally, serta emotionally. kalau you husbands dah tak mampu nak cater kebahagiaan kitorang wives, biar other guys have the chance to make us happy. ececececehhhh...

we also have the right to be happy.

ps: orang lain punya cerita, aku lak yang emo. hahaha....ini tak boleh jadi... hahaha